Ben Affleck on How Jennifer Lopez Encourages Him to Be Much less ‘Guarded’ – Rolling Stone

Jennifer Lopez is a queen on Instagram. However Ben Affleck stays away, nearly utterly. J.Lo talks and talks about her private life on a regular basis. However the final time Affleck opened up, his phrases had been “mischaracterized.” It’s a stark distinction between the royal Hollywood couple, who received married final yr, however in a brand new interview with The Hollywood Reporter Thursday, Affleck shared how his spouse helps him be extra open and fewer guarded.

Within the interview, Affleck spokr a couple of pep discuss he received from Lopez about being himself, the “painful” tabloid headlines that made it seem to be he was blaming his ex-wife Jennifer Garner for his dependancy, and he additionally addressed the “Affleck doesn’t need to be on the Grammys” memes.

“I don’t know if there’s anyone who understands Instagram higher than her,” stated Affleck, calling Lopez a “genius” on the app. “In reality, she gave me a chat this morning earlier than this interview. She thinks that due to experiences that I’ve had, I’ve turn into very guarded. And he or she’s proper.”

“I view this stuff as land mines, the place in case you say one mistaken factor, your profession may be over,” he added. “I had a very painful expertise the place I did an interview the place I used to be actually susceptible, and your complete pickup was one thing that was not solely not proper, it was truly the other of what I meant.”

Affleck referred to an interview with Howard Stern a number of months in the past, the place he opened up about his alcoholism towards the tip of his marriage to Jennifer Garner. The interview received picked up and misinterpreted, making it seem to be he was blaming his dependancy on Garner. That wasn’t the case, he defined.

“To be clear, my habits is my duty solely. The purpose that I used to be attempting to make was a tragic one. Anybody who’s been via divorce makes that calculus of, How a lot will we attempt? We beloved one another. We care about one another. We now have respect for one another,” Affleck stated. “I used to be attempting to say, ‘Hey, look, I used to be consuming an excessive amount of, and the much less glad you turn into, whether or not it’s your job, your marriage, it’s simply that as your life turns into harder, in case you’re doing issues to fill a gap that aren’t wholesome, you’re going to start out doing extra of these issues.’”

“I feel I used to be fairly articulate about that. It was the New York Submit who intentionally mischaracterized it so as to make it clickbait,” he defined. “And everybody else then picked it up, and it didn’t matter what number of instances I stated, ‘I don’t really feel this manner. I’m telling you, I don’t blame my ex-wife for my alcoholism.’ So, yeah. It’s exhausting.”

Affleck defined that his spouse has been encouraging him to only be himself, together with within the THR interview, even when the “pickup” isn’t all the time what he intends for it to be. (With this explicit interview, don’t be stunned if his golf-to-meth comparability makes headlines: “I have a look at golf like meth. They’ve higher tooth, nevertheless it doesn’t seem to be individuals ever come out of that,” he stated. “As soon as they begin {golfing}, you simply don’t ever see them once more.”)

However again to hype-woman J.Lo, who’s been encouraging Affleck simply to not be so critical. “So [Jennifer Lopez] tells me immediately, ‘Calm down, be your self. Have enjoyable. You’re truly a enjoyable man who’s actual and real and also you simply appear so critical,’ Do I appear critical?” he joked. “However as in lots of issues, she’s actually proper. And he or she loves me. She’s looking for me. She’s attempting to assist me. So it’s like, possibly I must fucking hearken to her.”

There was one other Affleck “mischaracterization” second lately too. On the Grammys this yr, followers meme’d the hell out of him. Many joked that he was not having fun with his time there or was unaware of what was happening, whereas others used pictures of his frowning face to assert he was consuming once more. To THR, he insisted he “had fun” and defined what actually occurred.

“I noticed [Grammy host Trevor Noah approach], and I used to be like, ‘Oh, God.’ They had been framing us on this shot, however I didn’t know they had been rolling,” he stated. “I leaned into [Lopez], and I used to be like, ‘As quickly they begin rolling, I’m going to slip away from you and depart you sitting subsequent to Trevor.’ She goes, ‘You higher fucking not depart.’ That’s a husband-and-wife factor.”

Affleck was sincere, although: He wasn’t essentially certain who among the Grammys performers had been — “Like, I don’t sustain,” he stated — and he was largely there to help his spouse at her “work occasion.” However nonetheless, Affleck was discouraged by some assumptions he noticed on-line about him that night time.

“I’ve gone to occasions and been pissed off. I’ve gone and been bored. I’ve gone to award reveals and been drunk, a bunch. No person ever as soon as stated I’m drunk,” he stated. “[But at the Grammys] they had been like, ‘He’s drunk.’ And I believed, that’s attention-grabbing. That raises an entire different factor about whether or not or not it’s clever to acknowledge dependancy as a result of there’s a variety of compassion, however there may be nonetheless an incredible stigma, which is commonly fairly inhibiting.”

He added, “I do suppose it disincentivizes individuals from making their lives higher.” (He has some extent.)

About being meme’d on a regular basis, although: “At a sure level,” stated Affleck, “I’m who I’m.”

The THR interview was pinned to the creation of his manufacturing firm Artists Fairness, which focuses on profit-sharing for all these concerned — crewmembers, cinematographers, producers, and so on. — in making movies. He talked about his less-than-stellar Justice League expertise, his new movie Air, and a “pink velvet rope movie star” group chat with different actors like Jason Bateman, Bradley Cooper, and Matt Damon, with whom he performs Wordle-like video games.

“Let’s face it, going up towards actors, it’s not a excessive bar. I anticipated to do pretty nicely, so I used to be significantly humbled,” he stated. ” It’s fiercely aggressive, and there’s a variety of mockery and derision. So I’m in coaching.”


His new film Air is about how Nike modified the sneaker recreation by working with Michael Jordan. Lopez helped him perceive the footwear’ affect too.

“Oh my God, she’s sensible. She is extremely educated about the best way trend evolves via the tradition as a confluence of music, sports activities, leisure and dance,” he stated. “She helped me in speaking about the best way wherein part of the rationale why Jordans [the shoes] had been so significant is as a result of tradition and elegance in America is 90% pushed by Black tradition. Black tradition has traditionally pioneered music, dance, trend, and it’s then been stolen, appropriated, remarketed as Elvis or no matter. And on this case, [Nike], a white-run company entity, was beginning to do enterprise with African American athletes in an id affiliation gross sales factor.”

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